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My girlfriend have problems with our sex life these days.She hasdepression depression and it seems to really affect our love life. We have gone two years without sex, as she cannot get turned on enough. We don’t even carry out masturbation on each other anymore as she cannot get turned on and is afraid of it failing if we try. This means that we can’t even try to fix the problem because we don’t talk about it any more. I have been looking into drugs that she can use to try and arouse her more but I think it’s a better idea getting herbal drugs as it would be safer. Are there any drugs that would help?

Answer

At the present moment (2006), there are still no drugs available for treating this type of problem. However, the big pharmaceutical companies are working on ‘libido enhancing’ agents which they may well bring out ion the next year or two. Alas, we know of no evidence that herbal preparations will work. However, by all means try some herbal remedies as they should be pretty safe.However, by all means try herbal remedies as they should be pretty safe. But I think that what your girlfriend needs is a complete assessment by an expert - at a Family Planning Clinic, at Relate or (as you are both quite young) at the Brook Advisory Service for Young People. Why not ring their helpline to find out how to make an appointment? The number is: 08000 185023. It may well be that your girlfriend's depression – or the drugs used to treat it – are a major part of the problem. Not many people realise that antidepressant pills can interfere with one’s sex life.Good luck.

Dr David Delvin, GP